Friday, January 23, 2009
I've Seen the Judges Order
Ok, I have now seen the order from his hearing yesterday and I don’t believe what I am seeing. It says that he will have his permit within 90 days as one of the conditions of his probation. His older sister picked up his papers today when she paid part of his fine. She asked the probation officer about what he said about us having to get him a permit because the judge said so and she also told the probation officer that we said we were not going to get him a permit and she said we had to. Now mind you OUR name is NO WHERE on these forms, they are all in HIS name. We don't understand this at all and when I asked my son what made the judge say this (like he is going to tell me the truth anyway) he said that the judge was concerned because he had such difficulty getting to probation and community service and he was way too OLD to be walking and riding a bike; he needed his permit to get to his probation and community service. Ok- so whose car is he going to use? Also did anyone bother to ask his parents AKA Guardians why he doesn't have ONE? Or better yet why WE weren’t taking him? No – so guess what HE still isn't getting one. The reason that he was on probation to begin with is because he failed to come home and when he was found by the police at his friends house he was under the Influence of Drugs and ALCOHOL (and admitted to being so)– DUH. I could seriously go to the local news media with this one, and I am sure that it will be picked up by the NETWORKS and they would have so much fun with this. The standard to get a permit at our house for any child has always been the child must be passing EVERYTHING in school with a 70 (or above) (which we lowered from 80 several years ago); you cannot constantly be in trouble at school, do chores on assigned day MOST of the time, be respectful and polite. Not too difficult right? Well now along comes our son - Mr. I fail everything at school but PE, I won't and don’t have to do chores, I won't be respectful at all and I don't have to do what you tell me, I wear my pants below my cheeks, walking and talking like a gangsta and we have to just throw our standards out the window and give him a permit because he isn’t getting to probation or community service? What message is this sending to the other 5 children who are younger in this house – Mess up and get a REWARD? When is someone going to listen to the people who have to TOLERATE his JUNK every day? It’s sad to say that we are counting down the days until he turns 18 (129 to be exact) and we won't be held legally responsible for letting him get behind the wheel of a car and potentially injuring or far worse killing someone. My husband just pulled up the requirements for getting a permit in the state of GA and one of those requirements for those under the age of 18 is – that they must still be in school AND have no conduct issues (He has 4 pages of conduct issues) so the school isn’t going to sign off on this anyway and therefore, he can’t get one – unless they want to order the school to sign of on it. NEXT! As I have said before – We can OUTWIT, OUTLAST and OUTPLAY any child. We are “Survivors”.
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2 comments:
Good for you!!!! Stick to your guns on this and if needed, send the judge a very long list of reasons why this child should NOT have a license. If he needs to pay people to drive him, so be it. Good luck with that though since he seems to not be interested in something like that.
I have 3 kids who could have taken drivers ed and/or gotten their license by now and there is no way in the world that's going to happen as long as they live under my roof. Our rules for doing this are EXACTLY the ones you mentioned - plus you cannot be a total airhead (we had to add that one for my dd because she is uber-ADD and thinks she's funny). We aren't asking for the world here, just the basics that every kid should be doing to get this privledge. The fact that they cannot achieve these things in life (even after we've lowered our standards ALOT from the older kids) speak volumes. We don't even live near a bus-line for my kids to have transportation if the need arose so as far as I'm concerned, they'll always have to live in town when they do leave (and they tell us often that it will be as soon as they can). I shudder to think about them behind the wheel of a vehicle, not to mention the legal and financial liability we would face if they did hurt someone.
I just realized that you posted this not a few weeks ago, but a YEAR and a few weeks ago. I hope Mr. 17 with no drivers license has given you a break over the past year!!
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